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SAGE Upstate promotes the well-being of older gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender

people in CNY through health programs, socials, support groups, & education. 

Please stay up to date on COVID levels. The CDC strongly recommends wearing masks in

Orange Level areas. SAGE has masks available -- we ask that participants wear masks in times

of high transmission. Check COVID levels here at the CDC website. There's a new COVID booster out -- have you gotten yours? Find a location here

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For Your Health

Negative self talk


Community News

Classes, events


The SAGE Upstate Holiday Auction is Live!

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Here's the link!

Click on the link to see pieces of art, household items, gift cards for plays and restaurants, and other treasures. More items are coming -- check back all week. The auction closes on December 12.. All proceeds support SAGE Upstate programs for older LGBTQ people. Here are just a few of the items:


If for any reason you are not able to access the auction online and would like to participate, contact SAGE. We can help if you run into problems, or you can come to the center and we will set you up on a computer to participate in the auction. 

315-478-1923    or   kdill@sageupstate.org

And there are more items coming!

Check back all week.

LGBTQ History: Queer Spaces

How did LGBTQ people make space for themselves in earlier times? Transgender women and cross-dressing men in the early 1960s found a haven at Casa Susanna, a bungalow camp in the Catskills. Abandoned Piers on the Hudson River became a site for art, sunbathing and more in the 1970s. Also in the 1970s, the Lesbian Herstory Archives gathered one of the largest collections of records ‘by and about lesbians and their communities’ with the goal of preserving lesbian heritage and culture. Read more on the LGBTQ History Page here.


Program news

Knitting moves to 2nd and 4th Wednesday: The Knitting and Fiber Arts group is coming back to the center -- but you can access it on Zoom too. Join other knitters and fiber artists on the 2nd and 4th Wednesday at 7:00 pm in the SAGE Upstate Center (see link info here)

Trans Social Participants: We need your feedback We are looking for ways to make SAGE Trans Socials more relevant to trans folks -- this might include changing the day/time, offering programs and/or resources, or focusing on discussion questions, etc. If you have ideas -- whether you have participated in the group or not --please contact Kim at 315-478-1923 or kdill@sageupstate.org.

SAGEVets: Quarterly Meetings: Starting in January 2023, the SAGEVets group for LGBTQ Veterans will meet quarterly. Stay tuned for details

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Lunch & Learn: Elder Abuse, Neglect, and Financial Exploitation

11/29, 11:30 am in the SAGE Upstate Center

Loren Ulrich, Abuse in Later Life Prevention & Outreach Coordinator will speak at our November Lunch and Learn about elder abuse, financial exploitation, and scams.  Abuse is any repeated behavior used to control you physically, sexually or emotionally. Neglect is a caregiver's refusal to provide for your safety, physical or emotional needs. Exploitation is stealing money or property or using money as a way to maintain control. Please RSVP (deadline Friday, 10/21) to Trish, including any dietary restrictions. Email to tjohnson@sageupstate.org or call/text to 315-282-5428.


SAGE friends meet 3 times per month at local restaurants-- once for dinner, once for breakfast, and once for lunch. Would you like to receive emails about these events? Contact Kim at 315-478-1923 or kdill@sageupstate.orgYour info will be passed on to Ron,  group leader.

Dinner: November 3, 6 pm at Thai Thai 3138 Erie Blvd East

Breakfast: November 9, 9:30 am at Finally Ours, 3788 West Seneca Tpk

Lunch: November 16, 12:30 pm, Biscotti Cafe & Pastry Shop, 741 N Salina St.
To arrange for your seat at the table, RSVP to Ron or contact Kim at 315-478-1923 or kdill@sageupstate.org.



History: SU is working on Queer Oral histories, and SAGE is looking at doing a Visual History of our organization.  Would you like to tell your story? Let us know. kdill@sageupstate.org or 315-478-1923

For videos of past programs, go to the videos page here

SAGE Bulletin Board

The Bulletin board  is for SAGE folks who want to share something with other SAGE folks. Maybe you're looking for a place to live, or have a place to rent. Or you might have something you'd like to give away or sell. Contact Kim at kdill@sageupstate.org and we will post your message here and on the bulletin board at the Center 

Roommate Wanted

Older married gay couple (70-59) looking for roommate in our home in Cazenovia. Prefer non smoker ( outside okay) and pet friendly as we have cat , dog , horses, goats, chickens and rabbits. Pets are welcome if they are friendly and non destructive. $800 a month includes everything rent , utilities, dish cable , internet and basic food . You will be responsible to keep your own room clean and help with the rest of the house , meaning just pick up after yourself. We dust and vacuum and do lawn care so not expected of you. During good weather have a nice private covered deck. We are out in farming area so pretty quiet and safe. We entertain on occasion such as holidays but nothing crazy you would be welcome to join in .

Contact: stonestararts@icloud.com

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For Your Health

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Addressing negative self-talk

In a recent NPR series, Ethan Cross, the author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters and How to Harness It, discusses how we can talk back to that unproductive thought loop that can prevent our ability to move on. Find more info here. Here are some tips to get you started:

Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend

The next time you hear that critical voice in your head assessing something you did or said, ask yourself: would I talk this way to my best friend? If not, try to come up a gentler, more compassionate response.

'SIFT' through what people say about you

If you're stuck on what someone said about you, SIFT through it. The acronym SIFT (source, impact, frequency and trends), developed by research scientist Mike Caulfield, can help you figure out whether you should listen to feedback from others or just ignore it. Is the source someone you trust? Is it moving you toward something that will have a big impact or a slight change? Have you heard this from others? Is this feedback you've gotten in different areas of your life, or just one?

Remember: our brains have a tendency to focus on the negative
This negative bias may cause our brains to place more importance on one unkind response, as opposed to positive feedback. This  can move us toward seeing ourselves in a negative way, and can lead us to make the wrong choices. 


Anyone can get Monkeypox, but the hardest hit group in the US are men who have sex with men. Check with your County Health Department for information on vaccines and tests as they become available. If you have difficulty getting answers, please contact us: 315-478-1923 or kdill@sageupstate.orgFind tips on how to avoid getting the virus here